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Is the Term "Toxic Masculinity" helpful?

Updated: Apr 11, 2021


"Toxic masculinity" has become the prefabricated phrase of choice bolted on to every problem involving men. The toxic masculinity argument demands that men need to be fixed, re-educated and reprogrammed. According to Maddy Pease from Fem Magazine, “Deeply embedded in the patriarchy are the socially constructed norms that define masculinity; think physically strong, unsentimental, and assertive. These descriptions make up the traditional image of men and define the term “toxic masculinity.”


However, we know that Masculinity is not toxic and calling men toxic is counterproductive and negatively affects our boys and men on a long term basis. For example, we know that Masculine dads do indeed raise confident daughters. They help their daughters to see who they really are and to recognize their potential. A dad who feels good about himself and who he is, is just going to bring that out in his own kids, too. It is inevitable. That’s one reason why tearing down men and shaming masculinity is so harmful.


Did you know that the long term effects of calling our boys and men toxic include the following?


  • Low emotional intelligence,

  • Psychological disturbances,

  • Academic challenges,

  • Criminal behaviours

  • Suicidal thoughts and difficulty in conforming to established social norms.


We must teach our men the values of honour, character, and integrity, and to follow their convictions. Teach them to always do what is right no matter what the consequences may be. Teach them to protect and provide for their family, to think for themselves, and give them the wisdom to see things for what they really are instead of taking everything at face value. We must teach them that it is okay to be a manly man.